Just Sayin'...

25. LA. I write a lot about social justice, race, sexuality and theology. 'Cause I'm a queer black woman who's down with Jesus.

I also reblog a lot of stupid shit for silly laughs.

I live by hope and through love.

"I have said things to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world."

I'm all about that truth. It really will get better. All things will be restored. The pain will end. It really will.

And I'll be damned if I'm not apart of that process.
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You’re no picnic. Alright? … But under that, you’re the most amazingly, astounding, wonderful girl…woman that I’ve ever known…I’m not an idiot. I know how the world works…I’ve got nothing to offer you and I know that. I understand. But I’m too involved now.
a paraphrased Jack Dawson in Titanic and also all the things I want to tell the woman I’ve fallen in love with

Chips, guacamole and a six pack of beer seem like exactly what I need right now. Happy fuckin’ Labor Day to me.

I spent the first part of my day sad.  

Like really sad. The kind of sad that feels like an actual knife twisting around in your chest, over and over again, and all you want to do is escape the pain, but it weighs down on your like the heaviest fog of depression.

And try to fall asleep at 1PM in the afternoon, even though you got at least ten hours of sleep the night before, just so you don’t have to be awake to deal with all of the emotions and a reality that you really don’t want to exist in.  

Then I got over myself, I guess, and switched out sadness for a different emotion: anger.

I could be self-pitying and lamenting why I let someone hurt me or I can be fucking pissed that I got hurt to begin with.

And thus the fucking ridiculous story of the past five months of my life that has to end today.  It just has to.  I don’t want her to ever speak to me again which I guess she’s chosen to do before I even wanted that so fine, whatever, it’s for the best.  I spent too long caught up and trapped anyway. All I’ve been wanting is to be done, so I guess now I’m here…and done.

There is no one anywhere ever that can convince me that falling in love is ever a good thing.  Maybe for some people in their alternate, fairy tale reality it is.  These are probably heterosexuals, who get everything.  For me, however, it’s the worst thing ever.  Oh, it’s not enough to fall deeply in love with someone I can never have even though something just seems perfect when we’re together and we have a legitimate close friendship - oh,no, It’s not enough for me to go through that agony once.  I have to go through it again.

For what reason? So I can spend what it supposed to be my relaxing three-day weekend alone and crying and miserable in bed for most of it? Great. Fuck life, fuck love, fuck it all. I’m done.  I’m never letting anyone in close ever ever again - whether it be love interest or just a friendship, I’m just not.  And goodness knows I am going to go actively out of my way to make sure that I never fall in love with anyone ever again for the rest of my life.

Gah, I thought I finally found someone who really understood me. Who got me. Who was interested in and saw my deeper layers.  Who I felt safe around and comfortable and could talk to about anything without fearing judgment but I guess that wasn’t meant to happen.

This feels like some sick sick joke.  I don’t understand life, man. I just don’t get it.  I don’t remember the last time I’ve felt this hurt.

ugh i wish i hadn’t left my ice cream at your house of all places. i really could use that ice cream right now.


My alarm was set for a certain time - some super early hour of the morning before the sun was even thinking about coming out, but I was awaken about twenty minutes earlier than that by my phone ringing.

I missed the call but there was a text in its wake.

Nina: my flight’s been cancelled!!!!

For the past several months (and really, the past couple of years) Nina and I had been planning our big move across the country to Los Angeles to follow our hearts and dreams and that path we knew for certain deep down that we were supposed to take.  There was one night on June where we sat in our respective homes - mine in North Carolina, hers in Pennsylvania - and excitedly bought our one way tickets at the exact same time.  We coordinated our flights so we’d land in LAX at roughly the exact same time.  We were truly embarking on this journey at the same time, just like we’d dreamed those last nights our sophomore year in the Upstein dining hall, talking ambitions over chicken sandwiches and waffle fries.

Except Nina’s flight was cancelled.  And I was about to be launched into our dreams…alone.

As we soon found out, that was the very very least of the obstacles we’d face in regards to the beast of Los Angeles.

Miraculously, Nina’s flight ended up not being cancelled and we reunited as planned in a terminal in the city of dreams.  what transpired next is a story better experienced as an impassioned retelling that borders on performance by Nina and I - if you’re ever fortunate enough to be in both of our presences at the same time, you ought to request it.  I guarantee you’ll find yourself sufficiently entertained.

And amazed.

And wondering how the hell we managed to make it past a few months, no less three freakin’ years!  You’ll also wonder if we just ripped off the whole story out of the plot of a melodramatic Lifetime Original Movie.  We didn’t.  Those absurd, chaotic, and absolutely challenging things did happen to us.  Retrospectively, of course they’d happen to us.  Of course.

Fact of the matter is, we’re here.  We’ve been here.  Maybe not quite thriving, but more than thriving, and we’ve certainly come along way from the time we used to gaze longingly at the Islands down the road from the place a sister of a co-worker’s of my dad’s graciously let us stay in for our first month, eyes sparkling as we hoped for the day where we could afford to eat at such a place.

Yes, there was a point in our time in Los Angeles where we aspired to Islands.

And we’ve come along way to jokingly referring to El Pollo Loco employees as our only friends because they were the only people who were genuinely nice to us and engaged us in conversation for awhile there.  El Pollo Loco employees and the string of mechanics I had to take the car I bought off of craigslist to upon moving out here.

We won’t talk about that car.

I don’t want this to be long.  I just want to acknowledge a couple of things about moving out to Los Angeles:

  • It was all I had ever dreamed of, ever since I watched a show called “South of Nowhere” when I was sixteen that took place in Los Angeles and immediately, something inside of me just knew that I was supposed to be there someday
  • The first few months out here were the most adventurous, most difficult, most straining, most faith testing and building, most draining, yet most important months of my life.  It was incredibly difficult, but I just knew, I just knew Nina and I would make it through.
  • We made it through.  I can’t take the credit, though.  I know God had our backs, 100%.  I just know it.  If you knew the story in depth, it’s nothing straight of miraculous that Nina and I didn’t end up back home with our tails between our legs within three weeks.
  • I couldn’t have done it with my best friend Nina without my side.  Even after the bulk of the difficulty subsided and we started to get our bearings, my continual survival out here is still so intricately linked to my very important friendship with her.  She’s like having family out here, which is important with my parents are thousands of miles away.  There would be no me and Los Angeles without Nina.

I teeter back and forth between “Party in the USA” by Miley Cyrus and “That’s Not Me” by The Beach Boys as the summation of my Los Angeles’ existence (listen to both if you’re not familiar) but regardless, I just know this is where I’m supposed to be.  And I can’t help but smile as I think back to that bright-eyed 16 year old, lusting for a city beyond the dull suburbia she’d been sentenced to, or back to that idealistic 20 year old who yearned for Los Angeles like her life depended on, and I think of how happy those former versions of myself would be to know that we made it.  We fuckin’ made it, man.

Here’s to many more years, I hope.  I love this place.  It drives me so crazy most of the time, but I love this place, because it’s my city.  It’s where I’m meant to be, and where I’ll see.  Three years later, I can’t see myself belonging anywhere else but here.

Lastly, y’all: follow your dreams.  Take that risk - absolutely take it.  Leap off that cliff with nothing but faith on your back if it’s something you know deep in your heart that you absolutely must do.  Don’t let the odds or what other people have to say or the fear of failure or any uncertainties hold you back.  Nina and I had barely any money, no jobs lined up, no stable guaranteed living situation, no car, no friends out here but we got on that plane anyway, and we didn’t look back.

And look where we are now.  Don’t just talk about it.  Don’t just wish for it.  Don’t just relegate yourself to listlessly dreaming.  Just do it, no matter what.  It might just end up being the absolute best decision of your life.

I know it was for me.

This week on the summer finale of Chanelle’s Life, Season 25…

After nearly five months, Chanelle has reached her wit’s end.  Unable to abide any longer by fate’s seemingly arbitrary influences, she’s decided to take matters into her own hands, once and for all.

It’s the confrontation you’ve all been waiting for.  And when it’s over, nothing will be the same.  It will all finally come crashing down into an unredeemable end…or it could be a new beginning of something that stretches beyond Chanelle’s very dreams.

Tune in this Friday to see what happens in this teeth-clenching season finale!

Some people literally live in a nightmare, and here I am, getting paid to internet surf…

 Dallas, TX - 24/8

if only i could be perrie, then my life would be easier, I think.

Dallas, TX - 24/8

if only i could be perrie, then my life would be easier, I think.

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Spice Girls at the 1997 VMAs

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